今の仕事が向いているのか？分からない原因

　学校卒業とともに、就職をするか。家業を継ぐか。ワーホリ留学するか。研究生として学校に残るか。起業するか。ニートになるか。結婚をするか。それぞれの道を選択し、生きていきます。

　大半の人たちは、就職を選択し社会人として生きていきます。その時に、就職した場所が果たして本当にやりたい事なのか？取り合えずの繋ぎなのか？生活のために仕方ないと思い働くのか？やりたい仕事に就けて嬉しい氣持ちで働くのか？それによって、人生が大きく分かれていくと思います。

　また、やりたい事が見付からず、とりあえず就職しないと、親に責められるし、親に申し訳ない。そんな氣もちで仕事に就く人も少なくないでしょう。家庭の事情で仕事を選択できず、きつくて辛い・危険を伴う仕事をせざるを得ない人もいます。

自分の人生は、自分で本当は決定できるはずなのに、それを選択したい人。選択したくてもできない人がいます。

そんな時、世の中はなんて不条理なんだ！と叫び、苦しくてつらい・つらいと思う人もいると思います。

また、仕事に就いたものの、人間関係で苦しむ人も少なくないはずです。

人間ですから、苦手な人もいます。それを好きになれと言うのは酷です。

昔なら、仕事なのだから我慢しろ！仕事はそんな甘くはないぞ！なんて言う上司も珍しくなかったと思います。

しかし、今はどうでしょう。

我慢してまで、働く意味があるのか？疑問にもち、お金は良くてもプライベートの時間が取れないとなれば、若者たちは辞めていきます。

何故？昔は我慢できたのに、今の若者は我慢できないのか？忍耐が足りないなんて思う上司もいると思います。

しかし、昔と今は時代が違うのではなく、生き方の価値観が違うのです。

雇う側としては、すぐ辞めてもらうと困りますし、教育・研修にお金をかけたのに水の泡となってしまいます。

また、働く側にとっても、就職した環境や人間関係が悪く、身体・心を壊してしまえば、再就職するにも時間もかかりますし、心をクリアするじかんも必要になります。

では、どうしたら良いのでしょうか？

事前研修・事前に現場に入る期間を最低１、2か月設け、新入社員とのコミュニケーションを確立させてあげる事が大切です。

家庭でも仕事でも仲間関係でも、大事なことは、コミュニケーション＝意思疎通です。

逆に言えば、コミュニケーションが上手くとれている事。

上司が新入社員の表情や想いを汲み取り、フォローが上手ければ、ミスや思いがけないトラブルが起きても、乗り越えられるのです。

よく、何で新入社員の顔色を伺わなきゃいけないの？っていう人もいられます。

私はそれは違うと思います。

何もかも分からない仕事も初めての状態、仕事内容も分からない！心もいっぱい、いっぱいな状態で、人間関係ものしかかってくる。自信などまだ無い状態なのだからこそ、上司がその氣もちを汲み取ってあげる心の広さを持ってほしいと思います。

　自分に置き換えて考えてほしいのです。→自分のときは、誰も優しくなんて指導してくれなかった。

甘えるな！と思う方もおられますが、自分がそうされたから、同じことをするのは、ただの嫌がらせと同じです。されて嫌な思いがあったのだったら、部下に決してしないことです。

会社の雰囲気や氣の流れが悪ければ、そこへ来るお客様や保護者に必ず伝わるのです。

いつまでも、悪化した状態が続くと、その氣（波長）に合わせたお客様や保護者が次から次へとやってきて、トラブルや問題も抱えることにもなります。

また、よく、新入社員をここぞとばかりに苛めや嫌がらせをする上司もいます。

私もそういう上司と2度、関わってきた経験があります。実習でも間接的に1度。直接的に1度だけ、強烈な経験があります。

こんな時『可哀想な人だな！』といつも感じていました。

嫌がらせをする上司は、自分の仕事や地位をとられてしまう潜在的な恐怖心を持っています。また、ストレスの吐け口としている場合もあります。

他者を認める許容範囲も狭く、否定することで自分自身を守ったり、また大勢の社員の前で、暴言や嫌がらせは、ただの子どものするいじめと一緒です。それだけ、精神年齢が低いのです。

そういう人とは関わらないのが一番ですが、不幸なことに直接の上司の場合は、淡々と仕事をこなす。右から左へと暴言を聞き流す。自分の仕事をきっちりこなすことです。

ストレスはもちろん溜まります。だからこそ、自分をしっかり保ち、夜寝る前、または朝の5分・10分でもいい。ムドラー瞑想をすることをおすすめします。

ダメな上司の為に、自分の身も心もボロボロになるなんて馬鹿々々しいです。

８対２の法則で、仕事のできない人が8割。できる人が2割。その中で、社会・地球は回っているのです。

あなたが、どちらに値するか分かりませんが、どちらに重きを置くかもあなたの選択次第で、生き方や人生観・見える景色も変わります。

When you graduate from school, you can choose to get a job, take over the family business, study abroad on a working holiday visa, stay at school as a research student, start a business, become a NEET, or get married. You can choose your own path and live your life.

Most people choose to get a job and live as a member of society. At that time, is the place you get a job really what you want to do? Is it just a temporary stopgap? Do you work because you have to in order to make a living? Do you work because you feel happy to have a job that you want to do? I think that this will greatly divide your life.

Also, if you can't find what you want to do and don't get a job, your parents will blame you and you will feel bad for them. There are probably many people who take a job with that kind of feeling. Some people are unable to choose a job due to family circumstances and are forced to do tough, difficult, or dangerous jobs.

You should be able to decide your own life, but there are people who want to choose. There are people who want to choose but can't.

At times like that, the world is so absurd! I think there are people who cry out, "It's painful and difficult!" and find it hard.

There must also be many people who get a job but struggle with interpersonal relationships.

Because we are human, there are people we don't like. It's cruel to tell them to like it.

In the past, it was not uncommon for bosses to say things like, "It's a job, so you have to put up with it! Work isn't that easy!"

But what about now?

Young people question whether there is any point in working if they have to put up with it, and quit if they can't have private time even if the money is good.

Why? People in the past could put up with it, but why can't young people today? I think there are bosses who think they don't have enough patience.

However, it's not that times are different now than it was in the past, it's that values ​​in life are different.

From the employer's perspective, it would be a problem if they quit so soon, and all the money spent on education and training would be wasted.

Also, for the workers, if the working environment or relationships are bad and they damage their body and mind, it will take time to find a new job and they will also need time to clear their mind.

So what should we do?

It is important to provide at least one or two months of pre-training and on-site time to establish communication with new employees.

The important thing is communication, whether at home, at work, or with colleagues.

In other words, good communication.

If the boss is good at reading the new employee's expressions and feelings and following up, they will be able to overcome mistakes and unexpected troubles.

Some people often ask why they have to read the new employee's mood.

I think that's wrong.

It's the first time they've done a job where they don't know anything, and they don't know what the job entails! Their hearts are full, and relationships weigh on them. Because they still lack confidence, I hope their boss will have the generosity to understand their feelings.

I want you to think about it from your perspective. →When I was a child, no one taught me to be kind.

Some people may think, "Don't be so dependent!" but doing the same thing to your subordinates because they did it to you is just harassment. If it made you feel bad, you should never do it to your subordinates.

If the atmosphere and flow of ki in the company is bad, it will definitely be conveyed to the customers and parents who come there.

If the situation continues to deteriorate, customers and parents who are in tune with that ki (wavelength) will come one after another, and you may have trouble and problems.

Also, there are bosses who often take advantage of the situation to bully and harass new employees.

I have had two experiences with such bosses. Once indirectly during my internship. And once directly, which was a very strong experience.

At times like this, I always felt, "Poor guy!"

A boss who harasses has a latent fear that their job or position will be taken away. They may also use it as an outlet for stress.

They have a narrow tolerance for others, and protect themselves by denying them. Also, their verbal abuse and harassment in front of many employees is just like bullying by children. That's how young their mental age is.

It's best not to get involved with such people, but if you are unfortunately your direct boss, just do your job calmly. Ignore the verbal abuse from left to right. Do your job well.

Of course, stress will accumulate. That's why I recommend that you hold yourself together and do mudra meditation, even if it's just for 5 or 10 minutes before going to bed at night or in the morning.

It's foolish to wear your body and mind out because of a bad boss.

According to the 8:2 rule, 80% of people can't do their jobs, and 20% can. Society and the world revolve around them.

I don't know which one you deserve, but which one you place more importance on is up to you to choose, and it will change your way of life, your outlook on life, and the scenery you see.